Dan Reiland The Pastor's Coach – Developing Church Leaders

Category / Relationships

A little poison goes a long way.

The leaders on your team may be gifted and high capacity people, but no amount of talent can prevent teamwork toxin from taking its toll.

I’ve been asked many times, “Would you really let someone go for a bad attitude?”

My response is always the same, “Would you really pay someone for a bad attitude?!” 

I never delight in someone being released from a team, but yes, without a change, I would let them go. I’m not willing to pay anyone for a lousy attitude. That kind of attitude is available for free.

(This principle is not limited to paid staff.)

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Getting along with people can be more complicated than it appears. If it were easy, everybody would be good at it! 

How you treat people, how they treat you, what makes it work well, and why it doesn’t work when it doesn’t is always important to consider. 

Conflict is part of human nature. 

When the challenges and stress of leadership are added to everyday relationships, conflict is heightened. 

The speed and pressure of leadership increase the potential to overlook even the most simple and basic relationship skills. That always gets a leader in trouble. 

Treating someone in a way that you would not want them to treat you is never intentional, but it is inevitable without heartfelt effort. And that effort begins with paying attention to the simple, but not always easy, basics. 

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The ability to encourage others is an essential skill for any leader.

The desire to encourage others is an essential disposition of the heart for any leader.

In fact, if encouragement is not a natural part of your leadership, you may unintentionally push people away from you rather than draw them to you.

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Very few leaders possess what I refer to as “Stadium Filling Charisma.”

You know what I mean, a personality that is larger than life and people flock to be around that person.

When they are in the lobby of the church there is always a crowd of maybe 20 — 25 – 30 people gathered around them!

I don’t have that kind of charisma, do you?

The good news is, that kind of charisma is not a qualifier for you to become a great leader.

In fact, in some cases, it can be a detriment. Organizations tied to a leader with a big personality can become dependent on that person.

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